Hello my fellow readers! Things have been crazy, but I hope you’ve kept yourselves up to date! Since it’s been awhile, I’m gonna jump right in! So grab yourself the cocktail of choice, and join me for a Drink with Jess!
Over the past few weeks, I have had many opportunities and experienced a whole lot of stuff, but the one thing that has struck me is how often people try to impress others. Sad, isn’t it? I’m trying to keep myself awake for an 8:30 football game (yes, I’m still rooting for the Eagles!), but I have no problem saying that this is my bedtime during the week. It’s true and authentic. I wake up at 3:30 to go to the gym, so by 8:30 I’m exhausted. But nevertheless, it’s just my weekly schedule. And I’m not ashamed of it! That’s called “being you”!
You may be asking “What does this have to do with dating?” Well, I’m glad you asked. I was approached by a woman I’ve met in various circles. We were at the same event, and she was way too touchy. In addition to this, every second she could she was inflating herself. I wasn’t impressed.
So I’m going to declare this now, and I hope you do, too! It doesn’t matter how much someone makes. It doesn’t matter how much their family is worth or who they know. I’m looking for authenticity. And as much people think I’m going to say “that’s cool,” I don’t.
You see, there are people that look and spread the air of confidence, but after speaking to them, you know the truth. I personally feel insulted when others think that name dropping is the way to go with me. I was raised with smarts, morals, and a humbleness that my family instilled in me.
So to you, my dear readers, I riddle you this. Are you the type that is impressed by someone’s wealth and standing? Or, are you insulted when they think that of you?
Check in with yourself, because not a single one of you, who are deserving of true happiness, needs to believe people that aren’t authentic. If they are showing you an egotistical side, take that as a clue. It reeks of insecurity and desperation. If you want to date and one day enter into a relationship, set your sights on the people that are real with you. More importantly, be authentic with them from day one as well. You’ll be happy you did!
With that said, pour yourself another, and remember, when you’re in the presence of a “big” talker, practice patience, trust your gut, and by all means, excuse yourself from the situation. Hell, if they ask you out for next week, feel free to say “Sorry, I’m having Drinks with Jess”. Until next time!
Jess is a dating coach, best selling author, and radio personality in Philadelphia. She provides the LGBTQ community with no-nonsense, straight forward advice to understanding your mind in order to navigate the complex dating scene and go after and get the people you desire.