With the launch of DWJPHL.com and its first blog, I couldn't think of a better subject to start with than positive energy. This is one of the biggest components when it comes to attraction regardless if it’s dating, business, finance or plain happiness. As many have stated, the energy that you put out there, comes back to you. So what actually is this fundamental law of attraction all about, and how does one use it?
First, I’d like to share a story with you and how this is applies to real life. I was at a friend’s “major” catholic wedding. It was long, mass was included, and the reception was not what I was use to. I mean, my family is dancing before hors d’oeuvres are served and having a great time. Anyway, the music was ok, but no one was really dancing or socializing. Obviously, these were not people who created Broadway. However, a Pitbull song came on and everyone surrounded the dance floor. They were laughing, clapping and enjoying themselves because of what they saw: two catholic nuns were dancing it up hardcore! It was so great; that I still look at the video I recorded just to up my spirits. They put out so much positive energy that it was something that everyone wanted to be a part of and it was contagious.
So when it comes to attraction, a woman wants someone who is positive about themselves, about life and loves to enjoy themselves. If you think about it, do you want to date someone who is negative and complains, or has no motivation or aspirations? Someone who is positive is a passionate person, and that, my friends, is completely sexy. Many women I meet or have dated usually first comment on my energy; this is because women feel everything and can make a quick decision, we are talking within seconds, based on how they feel. If you put positive, fun energy out there, they will feel it and be attracted to it… just like the nun story from above. In addition, when we meet someone that we’d like to date, we seem to say “I wasn't even looking for it”. Most likely, you were out with friends, having a great time, and it was a group of friends enjoying and multiplying that positive feeling. Others see it, feel it, and wham! You meet someone. So this is truly an easy task to complete.
To get myself in a positive frame of mind, whether going out by myself, going to work, or meeting up with friends or a date, I have my repertoire. First, I take the time to get myself ready. I mean I totally use this first step to show myself some love! I pour some wine, put on music that excites me, makes me feel sexy, and even makes me sing or dance as I get ready. When I do this for me, it shows the way I feel about myself and extends to others. After I’m looking and smelling good, I look in the mirror, look in my eyes, smirk or smile, and tell myself the reasons I am great. Seriously, I've been doing this for years, and do it in the morning and at night every day. Kids say that they don’t feel loved or supported because their parents never tell them. Well, as an adult, be your own parent and tell yourself all the great things about you! Tell yourself that you are proud of your accomplishments. After a few weeks, it will make a world of difference in your confidence and naturally heighten the energy you put out there. Finally, if I’m going out with friends I tend to shoot them a fun, flirty text because it gets us all amped up and laughing before we even get to the bar, party, restaurant or any other establishment. We always say “the party starts when we get there," and we make sure that is the case every time!
So ladies (and gents, if you’re reading), get positive! Get excited! Grab a drink, and take the time to make yourself feel good every day! Send out that good vibe you just created from within and be sexy doing it! Thanks for enjoying a drink with Jess.
Jess is a dating coach, best selling author, and radio personality in Philadelphia. She provides the LGBTQ community with no-nonsense, straight forward advice to understanding your mind in order to navigate the complex dating scene and go after and get the people you desire.