Hello people! This was my final weekend of freedom, so I decided to take the time to write. As you have noticed, I haven’t written a blog in a while because I believe everyone needs a vacation. Plus, there are new additions coming to dwjphl this year that I needed time to plan out! For your information, Tipsy Tuesday will be coming back for season 2 with a whole new look (check out my sweet trailer!). There will be 12 episodes each releasing the 3rd Tuesday of every month. This blog is coming back every other week due to my soon to be released Drinks with Jess podcast. Ok, enough news, let’s get back to it and ease into Fall! It’s buttery nipple time, so enjoy a Drink with Jess.
I have spent years being not such a big fan of online dating. However, after assisting with an article and much research I’m starting to enjoy not only some dating sites, but Apps that have become popular due to our complete dependence on phones. It’s incredible when someone can’t believe that I love not having my phone with me 24/7. However, for the purpose of this blog, it’s not about which sites are best. It’s how to utilize any site to gain greater response. I happened to talk about this on my mixcloud segment ( I Know What You Want) this week in more detail, but here is a quick rundown of what seemed to get the most and best responses.
1. The Profile Picture
I can’t stand seeing the “action” shot, the “blurry” shot, the faceless “tit or dick” pic, the famous “one-eyed” selfie or the “that could be your sister or could be your girlfriend with you” shot. People want to see what you really look like.
Have a good face shot (have a friend take it), a half/full length shot, and if you want to include friends, make it a group shot and place it last.
2. The Headline
If you flip through, you’ll notice most people are “looking for the one” or a plethora of other common sayings in regards to a romantic search.
If you want to stick out, say something different and something about what you want. I have one that says, “A good glass of wine and a fire pit”. It’s different. It says I like wine and the outdoors. And to be quite honest, at the time of making the profile, that’s exactly what I wanted! So get creative!
3. The Summary
People hate this part. And sometimes, I hate reading it. I either see “ask me anything” which gives me no information to come up with a question. I see negativity about past dating experiences. Finally, I see people’s life stories.
My rule is “3rd time’s a charm”. Three paragraphs with no more than 3 sentences each. The first is about who you are. The second is about some things you enjoy. The third is about what qualities you seek in others. Leave the other info for date conversation.
Short and sweet, just like today’s post, or a buttery nipple body shot. Start with these quick tips to get you on your way to successful online dating. Have no fear, this is one of many posts on this topic, because I’ve become fascinated with the actual ins and outs. By the way, many people use apps that are just pictures like Tindr, Grindr and now HER (for the ladies finally!). These will be talked about more in the next post about starting online communication. Be honest... we all think it’s awkward to message someone we never met before, but there is a way to make it appealing. So top off your beverage, and join me next time for more Drinks with Jess!
Jess is a dating coach, best selling author, and radio personality in Philadelphia. She provides the LGBTQ community with no-nonsense, straight forward advice to understanding your mind in order to navigate the complex dating scene and go after and get the people you desire.