It has been way too long, dear readers! I missed you all, but I did have to take a hiatus to finish my second book (and needed the material). Still, I can’t give away all my secrets via blogging. However, it’s officially June 1st, and I am ready to write once again! So grab your margarita glass, fill it to the rim, and enjoy a Drink with Jess!
Oh yes… now this is my time of year! Let’s give it up for summer! This is when life gets really exciting, but watch out, because you may get stuck. This is the time of tanned and toned bodies, dripping wet as they exit oceans and pools. The vision of women donning little (or no clothes), sweat glistening every inch of skin, while the smell of humidity in the air brings sex to the mind.
This is the time where we are creatures looking for excitement. So jump into summer: not into relationships.
Now, I’m not saying "don’t have or start a relationship", but I’m here to talk about being present, enjoying every moment without stress, and stop being “quick draw McGraw” when you meet someone new! Seriously, in our community, we are, for various reasons, the fast and furious when forming relationships. My job is to enlighten and educate you on this topic. Here are my top two actions to control!
If you are single, have fun. Go out, meet plenty of people. And by all means, date around. Men are better at this than women; though it is perfectly okay to date many people at one time.
If you have been dating and recently started a relationship, please take time for yourself and with friends and family to have fun independently from your girlfriend/boyfriend. This alone is one of the most important activities to do throughout every stage of a relationship!
2. Speaking of going out, the number 2 atrocity is texting while enjoying other ventures. Nothing is more annoying when your friends or family want you to stay present than either:
A). Getting back right away to one of the new girls, or
B). Initiating when you’re supposed to be living your life.
I know it’s harsh to say, but if you are dating around, or even coupled with someone new, you are not obligated. Many times when I see people get back right away, it’s not because they want to, it’s because they don’t want to lose the other person. Not sending a message back right away, instantaneously, isn’t going to not keep that person around. It may cause more wanting and mystery.
Again, being at someone’s beckon call is not attractive. If they want that, grow a pair and know you deserve more. Otherwise, go be an intern.
So, rather than going on another coffee run for your boss, try pouring some more tequila in that margarita glass, and join me for another Drink with Jess!
Jess is a dating coach, best selling author, and radio personality in Philadelphia. She provides the LGBTQ community with no-nonsense, straight forward advice to understanding your mind in order to navigate the complex dating scene and go after and get the people you desire.