Hello dear readers! It has been way too long! I sincerely apologize, however I’ve been busy writing my latest book Zero to Ninety and I can’t give away all of my dating and relationship theories! But being the middle of summer, I want you to grab a strong one and get ready for Drinks with Jess!
Yes, it’s true… I’ve been busy on this end, but that doesn’t stop me from observing my everyday environment. Speaking of which, I witnessed the most intriguing man.
We all know that I’m not attracted to men, but this specific man was so cool I couldn’t help myself but admire.
He wasn’t attractive in my eyes, nor was he doing anything but walking down the street. I haven’t stopped thinking about him and his behavior for days. Do you want to know why?
I will speak about the strength factor in my soon to be released book and being unshakeable is a part of that component. So after days of writing that particular chapter, I got to witness it first hand.
I was taking Nacho on his early morning walk by the hospital. This big, tall dude was walking slowly and calmly perpendicular to me about to cross my path. He, like most of us, had a cell phone in his hand. As he crossed in front of me with his arms swiftly at his sides, relaxed beyond belief, I heard a voice.
“I’d never disrespect you!” This was followed by other obscenities and yelling. Now I don’t know the situation, but this woman was clearly pissed. This was not what caught my attention. What struck me was the man’s coolness about it.
She was on speaker, ranting and raving while he just kept walking and even stopped to say hello to me and pet Nacho man.
This dude exuded total confidence. He knew that what she was saying, she needed to say, but didn’t engage. He didn’t defend himself, he didn’t argue, he didn’t fight. He knew that no matter what the outcome, he was going to be ok.
So what is the lesson for all of you?
In our community, we display such anger and insecurity sometimes, that we fly off the handle. Strength is not only about being unbreakable, but also confident in knowing that you will be fine.
This was a short post, I know. However, this point is so straight forward I don’t want to fluff it up with meaningless bullshit. This is as plain and simple as you can get!
I want you to ponder this story. I want you to reflect on when you’ve lost your cool. I want you to read this simple and straight to the point post over and over again! I want you to be as cool and composed as this guy when faced with opposition. And I want you to pour another strong one and join me again for Drinks with Jess!
Jess is a dating coach, best selling author, and radio personality in Philadelphia. She provides the LGBTQ community with no-nonsense, straight forward advice to understanding your mind in order to navigate the complex dating scene and go after and get the people you desire.